Reflections on aparigraha, the yogic yama of non-attachment

by Teacher Benedict Bernabe

IntroductionIn Sanskrit, aparigraha (अपरिग्रह) means "non-possessiveness," "non-attachment," or "non-grasping." The term can be broken down as follows:

• A-: A prefix meaning "non-" or "without."
• Parigraha: Possessiveness, hoarding, or grasping.

Aparigraha emphasizes a life of simplicity, minimalism, and freedom from materialistic attachments. It encourages individuals to take only what is necessary and avoid greed, fostering contentment and a sense of detachment.

Aparigraha vs. AsteyaAsteya is about not taking from others. Aparigraha is about not holding on to what you already have or unnecessarily seeking more. In essence, asteya focuses on respecting others’ boundaries, while aparigraha emphasizes freeing yourself from material and emotional attachments. Together, they encourage a balanced, mindful, and non-materialistic way of living.

Prompt QuestionsHere are some reflective prompt questions to explore the concept of Aparigraha (non-possessiveness):

Self-Reflection on Attachment and Possession

1. What material possessions do I feel most attached to, and why?
2. How do I feel when I think about giving up something I no longer need?
3. Are there things in my life that I own but rarely use? How might letting them go benefit me or others?
4. How do I differentiate between needs and wants in my daily life?

Emotional and Mental Attachment

1. Am I holding onto relationships, ideas, or habits that no longer serve me?
2. How do I react when I lose something or someone important to me?
3. In what ways do my attachments (material or emotional) create stress or anxiety?

Practicing Aparigraha in Daily Life

1. What steps can I take to simplify my life and live with less?
2. How can I cultivate gratitude for what I have instead of striving for more?
3. What can I give away or share to help others and practice generosity?

Aparigraha and Spiritual Growth

1. How does my attachment to possessions or outcomes affect my sense of inner peace?
2. What does true freedom mean to me, and how does non-possessiveness contribute to it?
3. How can I embody the principle of aparigraha in my interactions with others?

Reflecting on these questions can help you embrace simplicity, cultivate contentment, and develop a deeper connection to the present moment.